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When a Child Asks for Help, Do Not Turn Disclosure Into a Punishment Trap - working notes

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Hypothetical example: A child reports an uncomfortable contact after breaking an account rule. The adult responds to protection first and discusses the account boundary separately without asking the child to continue the contact.

01Receive the approach before asking for a defense

Listen and identify the help or protection needed.

02Let safety decide the next adult action

Use appropriate urgent, safeguarding or reporting routes.

03Separate accountability from access to help

Keep ordinary rule accountability separate from access to help.

04Explain what happens next

Explain the next step and return with the actual response.

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