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Private Notebook and Adult Care Boundary Plan

Curiosity does not make the page yours to share.

Fifteen minutes for a household agreementFree · Two-page fillable PDF

Companion to A Child’s Private Notebook Is Not Family Entertainment.

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Hypothetical example: a parent asks about a drawing the child offers rather than opening the child’s private notebook for visiting relatives.

01Ask what the notebook is for

Name the notebook and its intended use.

Notebook or private writing

Child’s intended purpose

Where it is ordinarily kept

Adult access already discussed

02Make ordinary permission specific

Agree on ordinary access and permission.

Who may open it with permission

What permission actually means

Visitors or siblings to tell

Sharing or photographing boundary

03Distinguish concern from curiosity

Separate a real care concern from curiosity.

Actual concern requiring attention

Information directly known

Responsible adult route

Promise of secrecy to avoid

04Keep private writing out of public jokes

Keep the sharing boundary and review it honestly.

Words explaining the agreement

Adult mistake to repair

Child’s remaining question

Reason and date for review