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Two Memories and One Question

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Fifteen minutes for one reading or family decisionFree · Two-page fillable PDF

Companion to When Your Family Remembers an Ordinary Event Differently.

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Hypothetical example: Two people remember different picnic shelters; a reservation answers the booking question but leaves where they later sat uncertain.

01Keep the disagreement the size of the event

Describe the ordinary disputed detail and each person’s actual recollection.

02Separate the scene from the conclusion

Separate remembered observations from inferences and uncertainty.

03Check a detail for a reason

Choose an appropriate check only if the detail needs resolving.

04Let an unresolved detail remain unresolved

Record the supported result or leave the detail honestly unresolved.