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Past Repair and Present Issue Boundary Card

Name today’s action without reopening every wound.

Fifteen minutes before the next correctionFree · Two-page fillable PDF

Companion to Stop Bringing Up a Child’s Repaired Mistake in Every Argument.

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Hypothetical example: a parent addresses today’s unfinished chore without reintroducing a repaired lie from months earlier.

01Name the present action first

Identify today’s specific action.

Current action needing attention

What was directly observed

What was only assumed

Specific household expectation

02Distinguish unfinished repair from a remembered event

Check whether an old repair is still open.

Old incident being mentioned

Repair actually completed

Repair genuinely still open

Evidence for reopening that issue

03Use a pattern only when the evidence supports it

Choose only relevant current evidence.

Relevant pattern with dates

Unrelated accusation to leave out

Adult phrase that labels the child

Specific replacement statement

04Give today’s issue a finish line

Give the present issue a clear next step.

Present next action

Adult follow-through required

How completion will be recognized

Date to close the current issue