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The Sibling Fairness Check

Hear the concern. Keep the actual promise.

15 minutes for one disputed decisionFree · Two-page fillable PDF

Companion to When a Child Keeps Score of What a Sibling Gets.

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Example: one child needs a first-step explanation. The adult confirms and keeps the other child’s promised review after dinner.

01Name the comparison

Stay with one event rather than a tally.

02Review the decision

An adult explanation must be honest.

03Answer the concern

Give clear words and a usable next step.

04Check follow-through

Judge the decision and promise together.