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Spectator Comment Filter

Record the actual comment and its context privately.

Twenty minutes to plan and review one actual actionFree · Two-page fillable PDF

Companion to Do Not Deliver Every Spectator’s Opinion to Your Child.

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Hypothetical example: A parent hears a spectator call a child lazy, withholds the label, and asks the coach what instruction actually needs reinforcing.

01Do not promote an opinion into authority

Record the actual comment and its context privately.

02Check what you really know

Check the speaker’s role and the facts you can verify.

03Take the question to the right adult

Choose whether a responsible coaching question remains.

04Choose words that have a purpose

Review what you said to the child and why.

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