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Past Example and Present Instruction Check

Use the past to teach, not to win.

Fifteen minutes for one reading or family decisionFree · Two-page fillable PDF

Companion to Your Childhood Can Inform the Conversation Without Becoming the Standard.

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Hypothetical example: A parent sets aside a broad generation comparison and helps a child identify the actual first step in the current assignment.

01Notice what the comparison is doing

Write the present responsibility before introducing a memory.

02Understand the current task first

Check the child’s actual obstacle and instructions.

03Offer the memory with its limits

Keep only a true relevant past example, if one helps.

04Keep the adult’s story from becoming a burden

State and review a usable present instruction.